Query: I started working out with him through virtual classes during lockdown and post lockdown, I still didn’t want to go to the gym so I called him home. We work out on our terrace and we have become intimate to some extent. I am married and I feel guilty about it. But I am losing weight and I feel motivated to work out because of him. I don’t want all this to end but what if someone finds out.
Answer by Dr Ishita Mukerji: Sometimes, intentionally or unintentionally people tend to develop feelings towards a third person even after being tied in marriage and loyal to their spouse. Such acts of infidelity can bring short-term happiness but at the same time it will make the involved people pay a hefty price that might cost them happiness and in some cases, their marriage as well. If you are feeling guilty about it and couldn’t stand the naive and loveful stare of your husband then it’s time to find an appropriate time to initiate ‘the conversation’ and make him understand the ‘cause’ of the affair. If he finds it unfaithful then it’s best to stop the act and try to mend the relationship. Rest if you are concerned about your workout routine then I suggest that motivation comes from within and you don’t need anyone else for that and best would be the case if you involve your husband in your workout session as doing activities together can do wonders in a relationship.